During April 2013, Richard Branson’s Virgin America launched inter-seat messaging – enabling passengers to flirt with one another during some flights
Predictably, moral outrage followed over such a creepy service being launched by the “undisputed king of super cheap, smutty but ultimately super effective PR”
I mean is this new service really so terrible?
Especially compared to say real social issues like the epidemic of mental disease, homelessness, growing old alone, societal inequality, dysfunctional democracies etc
I find the whole “moral outrage thing” interesting as:
A) I lack social confidence to approach strangers and introduce myself………..so any technology assistance in my younger dating years would’ve been great
B) Whats the big deal anyway? – people can always ignore message or say “thanks, not interested” – but they hopefully get some small secret pleasure from having been found attractive by another human being.
Hello 2.0 is trying to recreate the “70s telephone bar experience” (see last blog post )
A lot of the feedback on “70’s telephone bars” and “Virgin’s inter seat messaging service” involves highly negative phraseology – most notably the phrase: “being hit on”
– To “hit” is to hurt or injure someone – this is an awful connotation for the act of self introduction / flirtation
– I didn’t know my largely unsuccessful dating years caused so much hurt, pain and injury to so many – I hope no-one sues me for causing so much distress.
– I unreservedly apologize to you all and thank my (now) wife for putting us all out of our misery.
Jeez – lets take a look at some trends in the dating sector – just to put a little context around this subject:
– # singles is on the rise
– online dating is mainstream – i.e. introductions with strangers are a fact of life
– swingers clubs / events are now public information
– sexual hookup dating is allegedly booming
– The ”Bang with friends” app is hugely popular
…………..however, a stranger brazenly introducing himself to a girl in public is a jerk, a creep or a loser – I really don’t understand this dis-proportionate reaction.
(Especially when a lot of people find the act of introducing oneself so difficult – shouldn’t the few who do this be admired for overcoming their insecurities?)
I guess the “morally outraged” will say:
– But she didn’t want to be bothered by that guy
– Her night out was ruined
– She will probably need to get PTS therapy as a result of this heinous unwanted encounter – Ok, I admit they won’t say this exactly but this will certainly be implied by their tone of voice 🙂
Just look at this article and some of the follow on comments from the morally outraged
WTF! This puritanical, made up hysteria is dis-proportionate and out of control.
Here’s my guess of what most balanced normal people think on this subject:
– It is tough to say hello to someone new in public
– Sometimes, social cues are mis-read and / or unwanted approaches are made
– It should take minimal time / effort to rebuff an unwanted approach
– None of us meet /speak with enough strangers anyway
– Its not that big a deal, take a chill pill
The next blog post, inspired by a question posed today on Marni’s twitter account https://twitter.com/winggirlmethod , will attempt to cover the sensitive subject of “how might woman make themselves more approachable?” – this could be a huge mistake!!